The Secret Truth's About MotherHood

I feel like people get embarrassed—or maybe just uncomfortable—admitting how much of an emotional rollercoaster motherhood can be. Especially when you're not just a mom, but also a partner and the matriarchal backbone of your family.

The truth is (for a lot of us), some days your heart will be overflowing with more love than you ever imagined possible. Just catching a glimpse of your child, hearing a giggle, or getting an “I love you” can completely undo you—in the best way. And that’s the part of

motherhood people like to highlight. The sweet, Instagram-worthy moments that look like magic.

What they don’t talk about as much is the other side.

The nights where you crawl into bed completely drained—too tired to eat, too tired to shower—and somehow still can’t sleep because your mind won’t stop racing. The nights when you lie there wondering, Did I make the right choices today? Not just for me, but for them too? Am I doing enough? Am I somehow screwing them up in a way I won’t discover for another 30 years?

And if you're in a relationship? Add about 15 to 20 more shoulda, coulda, wouldas to that list. Then spiral all the way down into a “who TF put me in charge, and am I even qualified?” moment.

And because the world doesn’t really leave space for mothers to talk about that, you end up feeling guilty just for feeling it. Because from the outside, “it looks so easy for everyone else.”

So I’ll tell you two things:

One: It’s not easy. For any of us. We all have our good days and our bad ones.

Two: If you’re asking yourself those questions, it means you care. And if you care, you’re absolutely doing it right. Give yourself some grace. You deserve it. This is your first time being a parent too—at least in this lifetime. (But we’ll get into that in another post.)

Let’s just start being more real with each other. More honest and transparent. That way, new and future moms don’t feel so blindsided or alone. Because sometimes, just having someone to confide in makes all the difference. Leave message of encouragement in the comments of what you needed to hear. Let's be the one to make the change we needed to see.